While Venus is in Scorpio, and depending on how this transit affects your natal chart, you may find yourself longing for deep intimacy and intense passion. You don’t have much patience for superficial connections or casual dating, preferring to relate to a few close friends and one significant other. When you get involved, you want to give all of yourself and reveal the very core of your being.
However, because of your intensity of your feelings at this time, you might be afraid of scaring people away, and could have a tendency to hold back or conceal your emotions. The fear of vulnerability could get in the way of creating the depth of connection you crave. When you take the risk of sharing your authentic self, rather than waiting for the other person to make the first move, you open the door to intimacy.
If you’re in a partnership, this could be an excellent time to deepen your bond and strengthen your sense of trust. But you may need to work through some of the shadow sides of Scorpio to get there — jealousy, abandonment and betrayal. The more you’re willing to expose yourself by sharing your deepest thoughts and feelings, the better your chances for regenerating your relationship and transforming old patterns.
Venus goes retrograde at nearly 11 degrees Scorpio on October 5th, going back into Libra on October 31st and on through November, then goes direct again on November 16th. Venus Retrograde grounds us; it puts a damper on love and relationships, bringing those walking on clouds back down to Earth. With Venus Retrograde in Scorpio, we examine the relationships and aesthetics that we would normally hide from all but a select, trusted few…perhaps even ourselves.
Our Darkest Desires
Venus Retrograde teaches us that there is always the other side to love and beauty, and that without apathy, or ugliness, neither one can really exist. With this Venus Retrograde, we examine our darkest desires and how we compromise what we want and create fictions within ourselves to please others.
Retrograde Venus square Mars
The first aspect Venus makes during its retrograde period is a square to Mars on October 10th, heightening desire, especially romantic and sexual desire, particularly for people we can’t have, like celebrities or unattainable ideals. This frustration may cause friction in current relationships with real people. Interestingly, Venus Retrograde trines Mars a month later, on November 9th, creating a feeling of being able to have anything we want simply by asking, even though we might not remember feeling this way at all shortly before. Still, people will find affection easy and prefer to keep it light, because Venus and Mars will be in the Air signs, of Libra and Aquarius.
Venus conjuncts Mercury on October 15th, giving us an opportunity to put a voice to what we’ve been feeling. This may be a time where someone writes a definitive news article, song or story that expresses how we as a society feel about our most personal relationships. Venus Retrograde conjuncts the Sun through the last week of October. Everyone turns their attention toward Venus Retrograde issues, like dysfunctional relationships and thwarted desires. Many of us will desire to be free of all these issues or celebrate being free from them.
Here Comes Intensity…
It won’t all be champagne bubbles, though. There’ll be an urge break away from old relationships and start new ones, destroying old connections and to build new ones in their place, as Venus Retrograde will be squaring Pluto from November 9th until it goes direct on November 16th. Just to add to this intense cocktail of energies will be an opposition from Venus to Uranus, both retrograde. This transit will occur from November 7th through early December. We should all be expecting the unexpected when it comes to relationships.
Interestingly, Mercury goes Retrograde on November 16th, the same day that Venus goes direct. It’s best to view this switcheroo as a gift to really learn the lessons of Venus Retrograde. It’s as if the universe is specifically guiding the world to retreat into thoughtful, silent contemplation over the changes and revelations of Venus Retrograde rather than distracting ourselves with mental activity and chatter.