In the past -- or even in a past life -- you were a little too concerned with yourself in love affairs, and with your own ego. You may have operated from a slightly selfish standpoint that left your sweetie feeling a bit neglected. But now you have a chance to change all that, by becoming more friendly and others-focused, and less domineering or self-focused.
You can be a true friend to your lover, and help them to become the person they want to be instead of always following your own pursuits. And now you can be more behind the scenes instead of always insisting on being center-stage, with all the attention on you. What a relief! Finally, a more humanitarian way to approach the game of love -- with your sweetie's best interests in mind. And you can take pride in the fact that this is because you're more mature now; you've learned a thing or two about what does and doesn't work in an intimate love affair, and you're putting it to use. You're attracted to unusual, even eccentric types, and these are the people with whom you'll develop your most interesting and satisfying intimate relationships, so seek them out.