Following the pattern of a traditional relationship -- chatting on the phone or via emails and IMs, going on a few dates, then a few more, getting serious, getting intimate, moving toward a commitment, marriage, buying a house together, yada yada yada -- isn't for you. If you do take those steps that have been taken by countless people before you, you'll do it on your own terms, and in your own time. You're an original, in love as well as in life, and you see no reason to stick to a formula that you didn't make up.
You like to find your own path through the maze of a relationship, and the great news is, you're good at it. You've got both practicality and idealism on your side. You don't like to be tied down, by a person, a commitment or an idea; but you're not just willfully restless or rebellious, either. You like to choose your commitments carefully. Once you make one, you're in it for the long haul. You're not likely to commit yourself to a relationship that limits you in any way; you want to be free to pursue your lifelong process of learning. In short, life and love are both growth processes for you, and your best partner will be one who can grow and learn alongside you.