One word describes your relationship: conflict. At first it might be infrequent or mild, but as your involvement deepens, you go head to head more and more often. You two have some basic and important differences when it comes to how life should be lived, and these differences take center stage as you try to build an intimate relationship.
Your lover takes on the image of being overly traditional, even boring, and you take on the image of being unstable and irresponsible -- and possibly even crazy. You fight over issues of responsibility, ethics, intimacy and everything else that's important to you. If you're lucky, these arguments take on a humorous cast, and you're able to laugh at yourselves and each other. Unfortunately it's much more likely that there are painful disagreements that cut into both your souls. Part of the problem is that your lover truly lives by their code of ethics, while your morals are more fluid, abstract and changeable. You can see how this is threatening to both of you, and leads to disappointments on both sides. The further problem is that, through arguing your own point of view, each of you subtly try to dominate the other -- and that leads to some major clashes. This is a very unstable and difficult aspect to deal with in a relationship, and it takes plenty of patience on both your parts to get through it.