This aspect creates a problem between you, but one so subtle that you might not even notice it for a while -- or, with some luck and patience, it might never grow to anything more than a simple annoyance. The problem is that you have a lack of respect or regard for your lover's goals and ambitions in life, the things they've been working hard toward for a long time. Is their approach too conventional for your tastes?
Too narrow-minded, too conservative, too boringly disciplined? For your partner, whose methods are being questioned or even pooh-poohed, this could become pretty annoying. They have good reasons for setting the goals they've set for themselves, and they've worked hard to make their ambitions become reality. Your irreverent attitude and lack of respect for the things they find important hurts their feelings. They can actually learn from this experience, however. What looks like a lack of responsibility could actually be a fresh, spontaneous perspective that could really liven things up in the way they approach their work. You should try hard not to come across as if you're disrespecting their methods or their goals. In fact, both of you must try to respect each other, and demonstrate that you support each other's efforts and ambitions.