You have some basic and important differences when it comes to how life should be lived, and these differences take center stage in building an intimate relationship. Your senses of individuality and your needs for intimacy are directly in conflict, in part because your partner is out of touch with their need for space within the relationship. The bond between you could become a confusing push and pull between togetherness and individuality.
There is a strong bond between you, one that is based at least in part on commonality, but your lover tries to preserve that bond while you fight it, viewing it as a threat to your independence. This push-pull could come in the form of frequent arguments over all the things in life that are most important to each of you -- your values in a relationship, your politics about gender roles as related to love affairs, your hopes for the future in terms of marriage, kids and whatever else you might really want, or really want to avoid. You have a hard time laughing about your disagreements; you both feel too wounded and threatened by your differences to be able to accept them calmly. Through arguing your own point of view, each of you is subtly trying to dominate the other -- and that leads to some major clashes. This is a very unstable and difficult aspect to deal with in a relationship, and it takes plenty of patience from both sides to get through it.