This is a challenging relationship at best. Both of you have had plenty of moments where you've looked at each other -- or at yourselves in the mirror -- and wondered exactly why you got into this in the first place. Problems arise from the very serious differences that exist between you as individuals.
There is a certain element of criticism and control between you, and you may always feel as if your individuality, who you are as a strong, vital human being, is being challenged by your lover -- or even diminished. This probably started in small ways -- perhaps early on, you had conversations in which your opposing viewpoints came up again and again, and you were probably even able to laugh over your differences. But as your relationship has turned into something more long-term, your sense of humor may have faded a bit under feelings of burden and limitation that have only grown with time. If you're not careful, you may not even be able to see one another as individuals; instead, all you'll see when you look at each other is a list of grievances, of expectations that were disappointed, of needs that were never met. You must both take care not to let this heavy, troubled energy overpower the other, lighter, more positive aspects of your relationship. Work hard to accept each other -- and don't allow excessive criticism obscure your sense of who you are.