When any of us enters a new relationship, there is the tendency to join forces on a deep level with our new partner -- to merge our own personalities, needs and ideals with those of this new person in our life. Some people call this the honeymoon period, and it's both natural and expected. But in this particular relationship, you'll want to look back at that time and remember how the two of you got along, because this far into it, you likely feel a certain level of incompatibility with each other.
It wasn't apparent at the beginning, when you two got along so well and everything seemed smooth. But as your relationship deepened and you got to know one another better, you began to realize that you're not the same person, after all -- you have needs and desires that are quite different from your lover's. This realization is a natural part of your relationship's development, but it could bring up some irritation inside both of you. You might even feel at times as if you're dealing with a stranger, rather than with this person with whom you've been so intimate. This doesn't have to be a bad thing, of course. It simply means accepting the fact that you're two individuals trying to make your union work. Sometimes, it works really well, to the benefit of both of you. Other times, you have to go it alone, even within the relationship.