The amount of control, projection and possessiveness that exists between you as a couple can make your romance a difficult one to stick with. Deep, inner insecurities within your partner have likely led to possessiveness. When their feelings get hurt, which inevitably happens, they might even respond vindictively, making the problem worse.
This aspect obscures their view of you as a separate, independent human being; instead, they view you through the lens of their own needs. All relationships have an aspect of unreality in that way -- each of us has needs that, fundamentally, have nothing to do with the other person. In the best of relationships, we are able to deal with our own subconscious needs while receiving support from our partners in this process. Sometimes, however, that process is difficult or impossible. The relationship becomes less about mutual support and growth and more about dependency and the acting out of subconscious patterns. You both sense a deep, powerful but obscure struggle that pits your individuality against your partner's needs. You may end up feeling unseen, unheard and unsupported on a deep level. These feelings of isolation and loneliness could lead to resentments that will continue to store up over time. The only way to get through this difficult influence is to make an active effort to live as individuals within the relationship, and each deal with your own needs rather than visiting them upon one another.