This aspect doesn't make things easy between you, and can actually make it really hard to get along. Overtly, it feels to your lover as if you're a restrictive influence on the way that they would normally, naturally grow in their life; but subconsciously, it could be quite the opposite. Whether consciously or not, you each know just what the other needs to do to transform in life.
Some big, deep-rooted need for change exists in each of you, and your partner, especially, can ferret that out, perhaps without even meaning to. Do you still have a little growing up to do? Get a firmer grip on your emotions or your path in life? Whatever it is that you need to do to get to the next level of personhood, your partner can zero in on it and press those buttons again and again. The problem is, having your buttons pushed can be really frustrating and annoying! When you're together, you never feel like you can just relax, have a good time and trust that things are fine as they are. There is always be a feeling between you that things are not fine -- far from it -- and that you'd better fix it fast, or else! But it's hard to know how to fix it. How can you fix something that's so deeply rooted, even unconscious? One thing is certain -- you won't be able to figure anything out until you abandon the idea that it's all the other person's fault, and none of your own!