Though individually you might focus on your dreams and ideals for the future, when you're together, you, especially, have a restrictive, inhibitive effect on your lover's ability to attain their ideals. Whenever they have a bright, creative, high-flying idea about a goal that they want to meet, you tend to bring it down with an overly sober interpretation of everything that might go wrong. Whenever you're trying to be serious about working hard toward one of your goals, your partner is off somewhere, refusing to focus or get serious with you.
You probably take on the role of the overly serious nay-sayer more often, while your partner adopts the role of the careless, unfocused, freewheeling one. After a while, you both might realize that you haven't achieved anything of significance since you got together, and the whole time you've been burdened by a feeling of limitation and responsibility, or of fighting off the chaos that lurks only a step away! Neither of you deserves to have your sense of responsibility challenged or your joie de vivre stripped away. So your task in this relationship is to learn how to move forward and achieve your goals, even in the face of opposition. It might not be a fun process, but it could be a very important step in developing your own strength and determination.