With this aspect between you, it's very hard to have an open, accepting, easygoing bond unless you have lots of other aspects between you to promote harmony and acceptance, and to override the effects of this aspect, because it's a doozy! You two were involved in a past life, and you may have made each other's lives you-know-what. Now, for some reason, you're back in this lifetime, ready to serve it up to each other all over again.
You, unfortunately, are way too restrictive of your lover; you take responsibility for much too much of their life, goals and future, which is a nice way of saying you try to control them! For your lover, the one who is on the receiving end of that control, it could feel very, very familiar, as if you've done it all before. In truth, you have. That past life link is an unconscious bond between you, and the bad part is, it could convince you that you two were somehow fated to be together again in this life, despite the pain you cause each other. It hurts to be controlled and restricted! You use harsh criticism and disappointment as tools to get your lover to work harder, to do the things you want them to do -- the things you genuinely think they need to do in order to be a better person. Though this may come from a good place within you, it can only ultimately hurt the relationship.