Though you might not have noticed the effects of this influence early on, after a while, when you got to know each other better and better, you realized that there's a frustrating feeling to your communication. For some reason, the actual words that your lover says to you are hard for you to hear; there is a veil of misunderstanding that separates you and causes you to mishear them and misinterpret their signals. This probably comes from the fact that, on some level, you try to control their thinking or self-expression.
Are you threatened by the differences in the ways that your lover thinks, or by their attitudes toward life that might be really different from yours? Trying to control them into being more like you is a natural response on your part, but not a positive one. Attempts at control might happen through annoying interruptions in their conversations, or simple criticism for the ideas and opinions they express. After some time, they might start to feel like it's not worth the trouble to communicate with you, because they so often end up feeling misunderstood or limited. If you start to notice more awkward silences between you than ever before, take it as a sign that your communication is suffering! You have to work hard and work together in order to overcome this obstacle, but improved communication is worth the trouble.