This aspect hurts your bond as a close, loving couple, so you should both be aware of it from the beginning so that you can try to avoid its most negative effects. The problem is, you try to control your lover on some subtle or overt levels, and this behavior could end up bringing them down emotionally. This comes out most likely in the form of criticisms of their behavior; you just aren't able to keep quiet about your opinions if you think they're behaving in a less than respectable way.
When they're being subjected to this low-level control, they really don't like it. It hurts their feelings to always be subject to their lover's approval and, more often, criticism; they just want to be accepted and appreciated, and that doesn't happen often enough. If they tend toward insecurity or low self-esteem, this relationship could really hurt their ego even more. Of course, it might actually be that this feeling of constant discipline is coming more from an internal place than from you, personally. Any small piece of advice could come across as criticism, even if it's not meant that way. If you can both be aware of this tendency from the start, you can curb your criticisms and your lover can work at recognizing how much of their difficult interactions are really due to their own, internal feelings about themselves.