You have a challenging, troubling influence on your lover's work and their role in society, but part of the problem is that the influence is so subtle! If you start to notice, through the course of your relationship, that your lover's efforts to achieve their goals have become sloppier, less focused, less directed, take it as a sign that some adjustment needs to be made. Each of you has had to plan your lives and organize your work in the way that works best for you, but when you get together, all that planning and organization could fly out the window, especially for your partner.
You unintentionally have a chaotic effect on them; for one thing, the emotional energy that is created within your relationship is fascinating and compelling to them, and they have a hard time pulling away from it in order to do their work. Suddenly, their goals could seem indistinct; they might start to wonder just what it is that they've been working so hard for all this time. Discipline could become a huge problem for both of you, and it takes a tremendous amount of willpower to get back on track.