You have to be careful about how the two of you communicate. You set up a pattern of projection and idealism in the early stages of your relationship, and that's likely led to confused interactions in the present day. Your image of your lover is positive, but it's larger than life -- inaccurate, and with a set of built-in standards that are hard to live up to.
Needless to say, this idealized image of them could lead to disappointments down the line -- if it hasn't already -- when you wake up to the uncomfortable truth that your partner is, in fact, only human, flawed and incomplete like everyone else. Idealizing each other came from a good, well-intentioned place in the beginning, of course. You recognize each other's mental strengths, you feel energized and optimistic when you're together and you each look up to the other as a sort of mentor -- someone who you think can teach you all about life and how to live it best. In this process, you might lose sight of your own values or goals, because you're so busy looking to your partner for theirs. You both need to show yourselves respect as well as each other; you must promote your own mental growth instead of looking to someone else to stimulate it. Strive to see each other as the human beings that you truly are, rather than the images you project onto each other -- as your true salvation.