If you're looking for a relationship that allows you to nurture someone and be nurtured, one that provides a foundation of support that enables you both to become more fully and joyfully yourselves, you might want to keep looking, because this one probably isn't it. It's not that your lover doesn't want to do and be all those things for you; they do. But this relationship runs along tracks you don't anticipate, powered by a force that is bigger than either of you.
Instead of supporting and nurturing you, your partner tries to dominate and control your behavior and feelings. Power plays and arguments could become frequent occurrences. They grow jealous and possessive of you, making it hard for you to just be yourself and have a good time, even when they're not in the same room as you. And the bad feelings you create together in this relationship could last for a long time. You might have a troubled sexual connection that convinces one of you there's something wrong with you, or that you're not a good lover. Why put yourselves, and each other, through this kind of trauma? If there aren't an overwhelming number of other, better, more harmonious aspects between you to ensure a positive connection, you might be better off looking for love someplace else.