Your incessant self-flagellation creates problems in your partnerships and other areas, too. One part of you is directed, goal-oriented, a little impetuous, a lot dramatic. The other side is solid, ever-so-practical and, let's be honest, a little stodgy.
If only these two sides could work together instead of at constant cross purposes. Your grandiose dreams are soon deflated when Side B -- often in the form of your previous lovers -- stomps on them by pointing out all their flaws and letting in all that bothersome reality. You feel so inadequate and inferior, you can't believe that anyone could actually love you. So, you see neither your good qualities nor a potential love affair, even when it's dangling in your face. No wonder you've experienced friction over the course of your relationships, and frustrations both small and large.But look more deeply at the problems you've been having. Are your lovers trying to bring you down, or give you a hand by helping ensure you turn big ideas into actual plans? You've gotten so wound up with what you view as criticisms that you've stopped listening to the sense behind what your lovers say. Are you playing the part of a rebellious adolescent, agitating against Mommy and Daddy? Act your age, sweetie, and try listening, and acting, like an adult instead. Your partners have much to teach you when you're willing to let go and learn.