In your heart of hearts, what you really want is a relationship that will last. You want to grow with someone, to have the freedom to keep changing across the continuum of your life and be assured that you have a partner who will roll with the punches. Yet you keep choosing those who wear you down with constant criticism and demoralizing authority.
You'd like your sweetie to be the strong, solid type, a person who can make lasting connections and be loyal for life. Instead you pick distancers, and then blame them for your inability to connect.You don't fight with your lovers: You engage in cold wars. Yet if asked for an explanation of the problems you've had with past partners, you would lay responsibility at their door. Your lovers intentionally prick your sore spots, kicking you when you're down, right? Wrong! Oh, so wrong. The real story is that they won't let you rest on your laurels. The very best, and nothing less, is demanded of you. If you learn how to start delivering instead of whining, you'll find that you and your future special someone will have an easier path.