Sometimes you feel like throwing in the towel on relationships. They are just too much work. The tensions you've had with past lovers were thick enough to cut with a knife, painful enough to make you scream.
The problems you've experienced can be laid handily at the doors of the very different natures you and your partners possessed. You wanted structure and stability; you wanted to know where the relationship was going, and if you could count on a date for the movies and quiet dinners at home. But the lovers you've chosen were not the stay-by-the-fire type. Instead, they wanted to socialize eight days a week. You lacked substantive time alone to enjoy your pairing, being either dragged off to events you didn't want to patronize or left at home, wondering what was going on without you there to supervise.The answer is to let go a little. What was that old saying about if you love something, set it free? Love is not a puppy you can squeeze or a document you can pore over. Instead it is unpredictable and fierce, by turns sweet and biting. Savor both sides of your love relationships. Do not ask for more than your lover can give, and ironically, you may find you get a lot more.