Let's be honest: You chose your past lovers because you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. You wanted lovers who would let you steer the ship, who permitted you to decide where you went and with whom. Partners who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams.
You loved all that, but somehow it was never enough. Your partners were loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You felt like you couldn't trust them to always be there for you. Oh, they meant well enough, but they always found it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You began to feel like you needed something more solid and stable in a partner.It is true you will face many challenges in your relationships, but your love is strong and you can conquer your difficulties. You must tackle your issues squarely. Learn the art of compromise. Select a lover who can bend to meet you halfway; then bend likewise. Decide how you will keep your patterns from repeating. It will take discipline on your part, but with some time and practice these new patterns will come more naturally.