Your past love relationships were not always a comfy place to be. Both you and your sweeties seemed more interested in manipulating each other than in being in love. You raged and pouted.
They slammed doors and withheld affection and reassurance. You finally felt so frustrated that you chucked everything into the garbage. Too bad you were so quick to discard everything you'd built so far. Your lovers were challenging mates, to be sure. But that's exactly what kept you on your toes and coming back for more. Splitting when the going got rough only ensured that you'd repeat the same patterns in your next relationship.What you need is a dispassionate tallying up of the status of your past hookups. What worked in your relationships? What didn't? And the next time you get together with someone who's worth your while, put your newfound skills to the test. The ability to calmly take your connection's temperature is the first step toward solving your problems. Find some issues that need a little work, and then get going! Talk about what you both want. Make agreements on how you're going to move from here to there.