Your mutual needs for partnership are at odds with your shared security needs, which will create uncomfortable friction as you work together to build a connection. Perhaps you're both looking for a high-minded, adventurous and exploratory partnership, for example, but you'll build your relationship on on a much more critical, exacting, demanding approach to commitment. You might feel as if creating the kind of partnership you want is impossible; similarly, you might never feel that your security needs are being met.
Furthermore, any sense of security you're able to derive from this connection is likely to be bound up with responsibilities and other limitations. You're likely to find each other's careers or families to be an unwanted restriction on your own life and time; you might also feel your relationship itself limits your freedom. Still, this tricky energy also offers you an important growth opportunity. Work together at creating a partnership you can both enjoy and appreciate, while still honoring one another's needs in terms of security and commitment. You can find that balance, and once you do, you'll both feel more stable and connected.