One of the best ways to manifest your needs in this relationship will be to go deeply together into your own interiors: to the parts of yourselves that are powerful and passionate, and ready for transformation. Exploring this intense emotional energy together will be your ticket to building the kind of deep union you'll both wish and hope for. But be forewarned: This could be difficult, uncomfortable work at times.
Delving into your own emotional depths may not be a lot of fun, as old hurts and anxieties will flare up anew, demanding that you feel them thoroughly and process them this time. The good news is, if you can work together on creating a mutually supportive relationship, you'll have one another to lean on through this process. Be sure that you don't use anything you learn about your sweetie for leverage against them, say, in an argument later. The point of all this should not be power plays or manipulation; it should be about getting to know yourselves through and through, and becoming a closer, more committed couple in the process.