Mmmm, yummy. Your relationship was the kind of warm place puppies like to curl up in. Both you and your sweetie were kindhearted and loving, sensual and sexy.
Other people envied what you had. But at the same time, there were cracks on the inside of your cocoon that didn't show from the outside. You were a bit of a stomper and a door-slammer -- and you were never known for your fidelity. Think about it: if you actually had to set up rules for what's cheating and what's not, you were skirting close to a dangerous line. Your lover, on the other hand, could be self-righteous, vain, and impulsive. In a lot of ways, you rubbed each other the wrong way, picking stupid fights with each other, viewing each other's flaws with contempt. To make this work, the answer was in good old-fashioned hard work; things like rolling up your sleeves and scheduling some time to work on your issues. Actual changes in your habits and behaviors were needed, not just a lot of hot air and empty promises. The reward for the work would have been a deepened connection that could have grown with time. The penalty for doing nothing was a crash and burn. You won't do that again, will you?