You brought this on yourself, my dear. You knew what you were doing when you chose a strong-willed partner, all intensity and mystery. Your intention was to lure a strong mate who would challenge you on all levels.
That's just what you got -- and it made you miserable. The core of the problem was control: both of you wanted it! You were used to being in the driver's seat; it's what came naturally to you. But your sweetie was so intent on being in charge (and so willing to punish you with sulks and sudden disappearances should you not fall into line) that you most often gave in just for an easy life -- and regretted it later. It felt like you and your lover were locked in an eternal battle. You were going to have to let go of that wheel and relax a little if this relationship was going to move anywhere. You could have enjoyed the feeling of someone taking care of you for a change. Realize that there is power and peace in relinquishing leadership. If you had stopped making a big deal about the small things, your sweetie would have been more likely to let you have your way when the big things came around.