Did your past leak into your partnership? Troubles with your lover may not have been exactly what they seemed. You thought your beefs were due to your lover's shortcomings, but the strife you experienced should have been laid at an entirely different door.
Cast your mind back over your relationship with your parents, particularly Daddy. What unresolved issues still lie there? How were those relationships similar to the romantic ones you've formed as an adult? And most importantly, what patterns did you form as a child that you're unconsciously continuing today?You may have felt as though your problems with your lover were too deep to heal, but that was merely an illusion. Your own insecurities made it impossible to see what truly needed to be done, and you yo-yoed between emotions. Balance and peace were within your grasp, but only if you had recognized what you were doing to sabotage the things you truly wished for in your heart. In future relationship, put your ego aside and accept responsibility for what you've done. Then, and only then, you can create a love that lasts.