Alone, in your most private of moments, you and your lover were quite a match. Your hearts beat as one, your touch made your mate melt, etc. etc.
But out of the bedroom things were not so rosy. There was much dissension between you and your mate, likely centered either on your social lives or careers. You were sensual and expansive, attractive to others and often surrounded by a crowd. Your mate, on the other hand, tended to be more reserved and conservative, needed more alone time, and was a bit punishing. Together you had a tendency to play parent-child, with the one playing the parent role switching off from time to time.Both of you had to learn to temper your tendencies towards extremism. You actually could have learned much from each other if you could have stopped fighting each other's influences and instead learned what you could from your differences. You could have stood to be more directed; your sweetie could certainly have lightened up a bit. If you wanted this to work, you needed to call a truce. Let the sweet harmony you felt physically radiate out to the other areas of your relationship as you learned to treat each other with more consideration and kindness.