When your relationship was on, it was so on. You were passionate and intense, attracted to each other beyond all reason, which was probably why you acted like one possessed. But on the other hand, when your pairing went sour, it was very, very nasty.
Arguments erupted over things large and small: paying the bills, where to go to dinner, where your relationship was headed. You whined and sulked; your partner regarded you with unsympathetic distaste. You were never one to carry on emotionally, but something about this partnership brought out your weak, cringing, easily-wounded side. It felt as if your mate had all the power, and all you could do was cause irritation like a small stinging insect.If this partnership was going to last, you simply would have had to learn to give yourself the same respect you gave your partner. You had to stop seeing yourself as unimportant and useless. You needed to demand equal time, and equal rights. You may have thought you were throwing everything away by standing up to your lover, but paradoxically you would have won the love and respect you craved, the love and respect you never could and never did win by begging. Let this life lesson emerge from the ashes of your relationship.