You and your sweetie were an unusual match, and there were ways it worked for you, as well as ways you were bugged by the differences between you. Most of your problems were connected to the schism between your personalities. You saw your lover as rather egotistic and indulgent, while you were seen as stingy and pessimistic.
You were both right, to an extent, but there was another side to your differences; they complemented each other. Your lover's presence caused you to open up and laugh more, while you acted as a stabilizing reality check on your sweetie's worst impulses. Even so, knowing that didn't seem to help you get along better in your day-to-day interactions.One of the biggest problems you faced was your own insecurity. You may have viewed your lover as somehow more important or special than you, and it made you feel like you didn't have the right to expect an equal voice in the relationship. But your mate desired a partner, not a child to nourish and scold. You were every bit as worthy as your sweetie -- you needed to start asking for what you wanted, and putting in as much time on your own goals as your partner's. A little energy put in these directions would have yielded great rewards. With these lessons learned, you're in a good position to succeed in your next relationship.