What a strange dance you and your lover performed together. Outwardly, you and your sweetie were an odd match -- you were the stolid hard worker, your partner the social butterfly. You disparaged each other for your differences.
You complained that your lover was self-indulgent and far too flirty, while your partner saw you as a picky and stern taskmaster. You were both right -- but you were both also focusing only on the obvious. In your secret souls, you were each less different than you appeared. You craved lightness and fun; your sweetie longed to accomplish. So you see, that's why you were together -- you admired in each other what you lacked inwardly.If you had realized that, you wouldn't have gone on bickering as you did. You picked your partner apart for so long; it seemed to you that nothing changed. The situation would only have improved if you'd dropped the criticism and nagging. Tried focusing in on your mate's sweeter qualities instead. Noticed the kind words, the physical affection, the noble gestures. And you had to let your partner notice you noticing, even as you ignored the stuff that normally drove you batty. A little tolerance would have gone a long way towards healing your romantic ailments.