You and your lover were a curious pair, all right, but that didn't mean you were not Meant to Be. It's just that it looked a little strange on paper. You were all reality and discipline -- the harder something is to work towards, the more you liked it.
Your lover, on the other hand, tended towards the indulgent in all things: food, drink, work, play. The polarity fascinated you. Never had you found a partner this hedonistic, so attuned towards the physical rather than the intellectual. At first you were so overwhelmed by your feelings that you went along helplessly for the ride; but with a little distance and time you developed disdain for your mate's way of doing things. You saw yourself as the adult, and your lover as a willful, silly child. Your contempt was palpable, and it was no fun to live with. You needed to take another look at your sweetie, and remember your original attraction. If you had found a middle ground between your serious drive and your partner's lighthearted skip, you'd have had something to reckon with indeed: a solid, stable partnership enlivened by laughter and passion. You were the one who could have gotten things started but you dilly-dallied a little too long.