You felt jittery and panicky in this relationship, as if letting go even a little bit would cause everything to fall apart. Ironically, however, it was exactly this possessiveness that set off most of the problems. How could you have made peace with your difficult lover?
You chose yourself a partner who was passionate, intense, powerful, yet a bit unpredictable. You couldn't always count on your lover to be where you would have liked, or be as loving as you would have preferred. Sometimes it seemed like your mate was even getting off on the power a bit, as if you were playing a part in an ego trip.If you had wanted this to work, you were going to have to get a hold on yourself, and stop displaying all of your unflattering emotions. You should have learned to play it a little cool. Exhibited your self-confidence instead. Paid attention to your goals. Your mate admired someone self-sufficient, someone who achieved. This was you to a T when you didn't distract yourself by dwelling on your insecurities. You messed this one up by demanding promises. Instead, you should have held on loosely and focused your attentions on yourself. Your lover would have relented once the pressure was off a bit. Strange, but true, and an important lesson to keep in mind for your next walk around the relationship block.