Misunderstandings cropped up frequently between you and your lover, didn't they? It seemed as if you always ended up bewildered, apologizing for something when you didn't always know what you did. Meanwhile, your lover pouted and sulked, wrapped in suspicion.
Much of the problem lay in the fact that you didn't communicate well. You were distanced from your emotions, wishing to bury yourself in work and your goals instead. And your lover imagined the worst of you, made up scenarios and then treated you as if you'd erred somehow, or as if you'd made promises that you didn't keep.If you had wanted this relationship to survive, the two of you were simply going to have to learn to see eye to eye, and you weren't going to be able to do it by ignoring your problems. You had to gather your courage and start talking. Reveal your feelings. It would have been uncomfortable for you, but you needed to begin, since your partner tended to invent information to fill the gaps you left. Though you didn't know it, your partner's feelings and desires were much the same as yours and a comfortable familiarity would have filled your lives if you'd broken through your block. Warmth would have been a lot more fun than ice.