If your pairing were a scene in a movie, it'd have been the fight between King Kong and the T-Rex: a meeting of the mighty, a clash of the titans. There was a lot of friction in your relationship, most of it caused by dueling egos. Your partner wanted to shine most brightly in the relationship, and hogged all the attention.
You wanted control; to be the one who set the agenda. You wanted to be loved more than you loved, you wanted to have your lover at a disadvantage. So you withheld affection, and played it cool, and affected that who-cares attitude once more.But couldn't you see that your defensiveness arose out of insecurity? The real problem was that you were head over heels in this pairing. You were vulnerable to pain, and this could have been The One. Rather than putting up a huffy front, you should have exposed the tender parts of yourself. For once you had found a lover who could stand up to you, one who met your expectations. Why didn't you give your mate the love and attention they craved? You didn't let yourself be seen; the 'give and get' ratio was not in equal balance. Fixing up these problems would have resulted in a flow of ease the likes of which you've never experienced.