Your mate had a habit of really ticking you off. When there was a quibble between you, you were forced to spend hours dissecting your problems, discussing everything but solving nothing. Meanwhile, your partner's habit of blurting out unflattering things without thinking was irritating -- did you always have to be the adult?
Forced to constantly do battle with an impulsive mate, your temperament became harsh. Others may have commented that you seemed bitter, or rude. Certainly you were abrasive toward your so-called 'sweetie,' whom you viewed with some contempt.Your mate would never have become as controlled as you. But what you didn't see was that their fluid, excitable nature tempered your sternness. With your mate you saw a more joyful side to life, a lighter side. If you did want to try to make it work, instead of dismissing what your mate had to say, you had to try to listen on a deeper level. There may have been a message there for you, a clarion call to changing things about yourself you never thought you could. It was difficult for you to trust and relax and let go, but there was a soft berth there if you could have relaxed into it. And meanwhile, the original personality traits that lead to this problem remain unaddressed. If anyone can improve themselves, it's you; self improvement will definitely result in a similar change in your relationships.