There was an uncomfortable yin-yang action in your pairing, and sometimes it was difficult to take. Your mate was an all driving force, energy and action. But you tended to drift and dream, taking the shape of whatever vessel held you.
So there you were, with this lover, doing what you were asked and going where you were told. But did you think carefully about where you were going? Was there a plan? Or were you just floating along on the path of least resistance, taking what was handed to you simply because it was easier than pursuing something?It's not that your mate meant to squelch you so thoroughly, it's just that you were such a limp noodle. Who could tell what you wanted and give it to you when you were apt to shrug and go along with the plans, any plans? You needed to resist your temptation to live in a dream world, you had to think concretely and carefully about what you wanted: from life, from the relationship. Then, you could have started asserting yourself. It was uncomfortable for you -- but no less uncomfy than ending up in a second-class relationship simply because you were too lazy to mold it to your liking. You'll achieve more success in relationship if you firm up a little bit.