Your mate called you 'touchy,' and face it, the definition was not far off. You were rotten at communicating your thoughts and feelings, so how could you blame your partner for stepping squarely on hidden land mines? You reacted strongly to what you imagined to be deliberate slights, but look at the situation objectively.
If you were not telling people what you needed as well as what bothered you, how could you expect others to avoid your tender spots? Not everyone is as sensitive as you, you know. Part of the problem lay in that extreme sensitivity. It was easy for you to put yourself in your mate's shoes, and to experience his or her problems almost as your own. But this sensitivity led you to downplay, or even to ignore your own emotional needs.But playing martyr got you nowhere. Other lovers may have reacted to your sulks and pouts by falling into line, but this partner was merely confused by your actions. You could have tried a different line of action. You needed to have a few deep talks with your loved one. Discuss your feelings, your desires. It was not comfortable or easy for you, but you would have improved in time. And your mate would have had a better blueprint of your heart.