First things first: Who was holding out out in the love department? Signs point to your ex, who was stingy with affection in the best of times. But certain developments practically shut the store down, and you were starving for physical contact.
It was almost pathetic, how far you'd go to try to woo your stubborn sweetie, but it was to no avail: Your partner was better than you at playing mind games. You were outmatched. And though you'd have liked this one to be The One, you were going to have to iron out your problems if you wanted the relationship to move along. One thing you should know: Much of the reason you were off your game was that you were enacting old dramas from your past. Just who can you think of who withheld love from you in your childhood? And how did you behave, given your high hopes of evening the score? Now do you recognize why you became what you were in this relationship? You needed to start unloading your baggage, one piece a time, before you could unwind the Gordian knot of your woes. If you changed your behavior, your partner would have changed as well. But first you had some deep thinking to do. Jettison some of the baggage before embarking on your next relationship.