Hey, jealous lover! You assumed the role of a punitive first-grade teacher: standing over your lover, shaking your finger at naughty behavior, hectoring and blustering. Unfortunately, in order to avoid your lectures, your lover turned off.
They weren't listening, so why were you bothering to express yourself so forcefully and frequently? You two were at odds, bickering over small things to avoid talking about the Great Big Thing neither of you wanted to face. But hiding your head in the sand got you exactly nowhere. You two really needed to face facts and look at obstacles truthfully. You and your lover weren't particularly well-matched, it is true. While you were all speed and action and energy, your lover was dark, secretive, maybe even a bit cruel. But something in you craved the abuse and invited the ill-treatment. If you had really wanted to make this work, you needed to find a balance. You needed to get as much as you gave -- so if you found you were not receiving as much affection and attention, you needed to put your energies elsewhere and dial down your emotions a bit. Your lover would have appreciated the break, and you would have gotten back into balance. But given your mismatch, you are probably better off apart.