When you first met your lover you were attracted to the sweet adaptability you found. Here was a lover who would let you steer the ship, deciding where you went and with whom. Someone who would listen to your stories, sympathize with your troubles, support your dreams.
You loved all that, but somehow it wasn't enough. Your partner was loving and sympathetic enough, but awfully insubstantial. You felt like you couldn't trust them to always be there for you -- your lover meant well but found it difficult to conform to plans, keep agreements, maintain boundaries. You felt like you needed something more solid and stable.It is true you faced many challenges in this relationship, but had your love been strong enough you could have conquered your difficulties. You didn't tackle your issues squarely or learn the art of compromise. If your lover bent to meet you halfway, you would have needed to bend likewise. You had to decide how you would keep your patterns from repeating. It would have taken discipline on both your parts, but with some time and practice these new patterns would have come more naturally. With this experience under your belt you'll have a better ideal of how to do it next time.