Both of you viewed the other as rather pompous and arrogant. The irony? You saw your lover's delusions of grandeur but didn't recognize your own.
You were every bit as stuck on yourself as your lover was. Why was it you couldn't see that you despised the parts of your lover that mirrored your own? Was it too painful to face? Or did you simply believe your way was the way and anyone who disagreed must be a fool? It was likely that you and your lover had widely disparate views on moral issues and ethics, and that you were both somewhat foolish with money. Credit card debt may have plagued you, as may a certain lack of motivation. You both meant well, but you egged each other's unrealistic dreams on, instead of pushing each other to perform.But underneath all the bickering, you two were well-matched. If you could have mustered a little tolerance (instead of demanding your lover toe your line), you could even have learned a lot from each other. By accepting each other, you could have expanded your world view and gotten along better with people in general. It required flexibility, sacrifice, and patience, but the work you put in would have paid off, and quickly too.