At your best, you were a pair of cooing lovebirds: sweet, adoring, inclined towards generosity and good times and cheer. It sounds so positive, does it not? And it generally was, except that for the pair of you there was no restraint.
Neither of you knew how to hold back, how to stop yourself before you said too much, how to discipline yourselves. You indulged all your appetites -- for food, for passion, for drink, for fun. You encouraged each other in your excesses, and inevitably the bill for all this high living came due. And that's when the friction started between you, as each blamed the other for money problems, weight issues, consequences stemming from not taking care of responsibilities.The problem did not have to be that tough to iron out. You could have sought out professional help in your problem areas. Hired someone to help you make a budget for you, engaged a professional trainer, or otherwise found a pro who would have spurred you to some kind of action. Let loose on the world, you're a force to be reckoned with -- all you have to do is ensure your energy is being channeled into positive areas. With a little more discipline on your part, your love life will come back into balance.