Is He Into You? Learn the Secret Signals of a Cancer Man

Kelli Fox

Sometimes it can be hard to tell whether your crush is crushing back on you. After all, many men are notoriously closed-lipped about their feelings, especially when it comes to affairs of the heart. But if you know his Zodiac sign, you have an important key to understanding not just his personality, but his behavior — and his desire nature. Since each Sun sign expresses attraction in its own ways, every man sends out different, individual signals that are unique to his sign. Read your guy’s sign to unlock the mystery of whether or not he’s into you.

Cancer can be difficult to read on lots of levels, including a romantic one. This deeply emotional sign needs to feel safe and secure before he can let his heart be known to the one he admires. And it doesn’t help that the sign of the Crab is famously moody! So figuring out whether he’s into you is about interpreting his actions accurately — namely, his urge to protect what he cares about most. Cancer men show their interest by taking care of the object of their desires, which can manifest in many different ways. Behaviors that might seem a bit patronizing or even overbearing — insisting on walking you to your car, for example, or admonishing you not to lift that heavy box — are actually his attempt to keep you safe. When he makes it clear that he wants to make sure you’re well protected, that’s when you know you truly matter to your Cancer guy.

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  1. Jade Lewis on June 22, 2017 at 1:35 am

    My cancer friend told me he’s way too busy for a relationship, and respects me too much for anything else. He’s a very busy attorney. Is there any hope for a relationship later on or should I move on?

    • Nikki on October 3, 2017 at 12:05 pm

      Jade, it has been a few months; has anything changed? I am falling for a friend of mine that is a Cancer man and it is so hard to read these men. I have tried to show him that I like him beyond friendship and we spend time together but he still hasn’t opened up to me completely. Things seemed to change between us about a year ago and as time has gone on, we have gotten closer. From what I understand, it takes A LOT of time and patience to have a relationship with them, but it is worth it. Best wishes to you.

      • Jade on October 22, 2017 at 11:36 pm

        Hi Nikki! In September he contacted me and I’ve spent the night with him twice in the last month. And yes the sex was amazing!! But unfortunately no change. I told him I know he cares about me, but I didn’t understand what was keeping him from me. No response. Today I told him that it hurts like hell realizing you mean nothing to someone that you care about so much. Again no response. So after 9 hours I sent a text saying goodnight, and he responded immediately good night. He’s the only man that I truly loved. I’m trying to be patient because I love him, and I know he’s a good man. I guess I’m afraid of being hurt. But he’s always there when I need him.

        • J on November 14, 2017 at 4:26 pm

          How are things going? I’m in a similar situation.

          • Jade on November 15, 2017 at 2:15 am

            No change, I’m going to try my best to be patient. And in the process just work on myself. No matter what I know we will always be friends. It’s really hard for me too move on because he’s such an amazing man. He told me that he’s emotionally unavailable.

          • p on November 15, 2017 at 11:36 am

            If you are having sex and nothing more then he has no emotional attachment to you. Us cancers are notorious for this. If we are truly into someone we approach sex slowly because it solidifies our feelings. We don’t like to be hurt. You should move on.

      • stacy s Hillman on June 28, 2018 at 8:16 pm

        I am currently with a cancer man . i spent 16 yrs with the last one. You have to be friends first. i didnt ask too many questions. I talked about myself some. They have to feel comfortable. They are protectors so they dont open up at first. The biggest thing fif me is selfish. I am an Aquarius.

    • Ashanti Sturdivant on July 17, 2018 at 4:05 pm

      No move on cancers are upfront and direct about what they want

  2. M on November 20, 2017 at 8:51 am

    Hey ..i met this guy over Tinder …we chatted for a few weeks before we met up. We had two dates and on the second day we slept with each other. he was sweet and caring . Msged me almost every day, but then a few days after our second date he changed. He wasnt all that communicative. Stop msg and went all quiet on me. When i told him i didnt appreciate it he said he needed to be quiet. I told him i wont msg him again as i dint want to msg someone who wasnt wiling to be spoken to. Also that when he reads and ignores my msgs i don like it. its been a week and he hasnt msg me back. Should i msg him / wait for him to make the first move/ forget him and move on. Any advice at this point of time would be appreciated

    • Liza on December 11, 2017 at 12:38 am

      I’ve dealt with the exact same issue, and with a guy on tinder too. You’re probably thinking what did I do, I thought he liked me, is it something I said? Cancer guys are like this. They’ll show extreme interest and then retreat. It’s important to know it’s not personal. I’m not one for games, but cancers love the chase. When they retreat like that, don’t message or text or ask questions, because fortunately, they’ll often be turned off by that and think it’s clingy. I say move on with you life and show your independence and if he’s really interested he’ll reach out. If the back and forth of this chasing game he seems to be playing is going to drive you crazy, don’t pursue him, it’ll drive you mad. To be with a guy like that you have to be super secure in yourself and know when he goes into phases of distancing himself, it’s most likely him and not you. If you’re the type to over-analyze, you’ll constantly be in a state of paranoia and you’ll feel hurt in this kind of relationship. If you really see something with him, keep moving on with your life and show him you’re independent. Once he sees that, if he’s truly interested, he’ll reach out. You probably can’t expect a relationship to form quickly with him, it’s going to take a lot of time, so only go into it if you’re an extremely patient person.

      • Jade on January 18, 2018 at 10:36 pm

        Hello everyone. It wasn’t just a sex thing, we’ve been friends for almost five years. I recently had brain surgery 12/13/2017 so I haven’t read any of the replies. My cancer guy still doesn’t want a relationship. But he’s been supportive throughout my surgery. He sent me 4 beautiful flower arrangements when I was in the hospital to put a smile on my face. I know he cares about me because he promised if anything happened too me he would make sure my youngest son has a great life. He was my rock when I wasn’t even sure I would even survive the 12 hour brain surgery. I don’t want to give up on him yet because no matter what he’s always there for me.

        • Lisa on January 19, 2018 at 8:31 am

          Hi Jade, wishing you a speedy recovery. It seems like your Cancer man was really there for you. x

          • Jade on January 19, 2018 at 3:34 pm

            Hello Lisa, thank you! Yes he was definitely there for me. After going through all of this I’ve come to the conclusion that, if we’re suppose to be together we will. If not it wasn’t meant too be. But if nothing more I know we’ll be friends for life. I’m going to continue to be patient. ???

  3. Nik on January 22, 2018 at 2:02 pm

    Jade I’m glad you made it through your surgery! I see a lot of ladies going through the same thing with cancer men. My friend has told me he is not ready for a relationship, it’s hard for him to open up, and he doesn’t trust a lot of people. He told me some things that happened in past relationships and I understand why. Has anyone been able to get their cancer man to trust them? We’ve known each other for years and I’ve never done anything to betray that trust. At this time he has backed away so I’m doing the same.

    • Jade on January 23, 2018 at 2:37 pm

      Hello Nik, thank you! I’d say follow your heart! If he’s worth it just be patient. My cancer guy asked me if I was sure I wanted to pursue something more, because he values our relationship (friendship) and doesn’t want to jeopardize that. I told him he’s worth the risk. So he said okay. When your guy backs off give him space he’ll be back. Find something to occupy your time with. I had to do that myself to keep from coming off clingy?.

  4. Elissia on January 28, 2018 at 11:08 am

    Hi, so i have an issue with a cancer guy (i am a capricorn woman) and here goes: we met on tinder, he’s suuuuper sweet, very handsome and i can tell he’s traditional.. which i love. we went out on a date about 3 days after texting, then he took me to play pool afterward and he sung to me in the car after the movie, so i’m assuming that was him opening up a bit? idk but he kissed me on my cheek after we left from playing pool, when he dropped me off we kissed. it was almost magical (dramatic, but true) the next day we play uno at his house, then we ended up having sex. immediately after he wanted to change his sheets, and we showered together which i’ve never experienced any of this before so i was starting to like him (shit) not to mention that he is VERY passionate and we cuddled all night and he held me so tightly throughout the night. fast forward, we hook up again and cuddle and we were drinking while he was playing video games. but the texting has kinda come to a hault. he’s in the navy so i only see him on weekends (which works for me) and i’m not one to open up so quickly, but after reading about cancer men i guess i should show him i like him with my actions? but i don’t wanna come off as clingy because i do want to get to know him better, but i don’t know if i’m wasting my time. he also has a very large amount of ppl he’s been with sexually, he’s dealing with a pending dui case which i know has him stressing out, and he’s about to go on deployement (2/1/18) for a month! my question is, do i just do my own thing and see if he comes back around? tell him i like him in hopes that me telling him this will reassure him of my feelings (they hate rejection) or just leave him alone all together? our signs are the epitome of “opposites attract” apparently so i’m trying to be patient. PLEASE HELP ME
    also.. some pros are that he stares at me a lot, opened up about his fam (the first time we hooked up) while we were cuddling, and holds my hand randomly/caress me randomly, told me he’s going to cook for me one day also
    some cons are: i got rejected 3 times trying to see him over the last week (he always explains himself after declining) he doesn’t initiate things (not even our first date lol) and now he’s doing this thing where he’ll watch my snaps but wont text me back!! is he feeling me out because he’s interested, or should i delete, erase, and unfollow? lol i’m sorry i know this is long but it’s really messing with me because i’ve met someone so amazing. what should i do!?

    • Jade on January 30, 2018 at 8:08 am

      Be patient, and follow your heart. My cancer did the same thing. After no communication with him for 3 months he called. I told him I wanted to call and text him so many times during our 3 months of no communication. I was surprised when he told me he felt the same way. Elissia only you know what you feel in your heart for him. If you feel like he’s worth it be patient, and don’t let your mind get the best of you. Good luck!

      • J on February 8, 2018 at 4:05 pm

        Have there been any changes in his behavior? They say cancer men at worth the wait, so I’m trying to be patient with mine. But it’s been almost a year. Still no title, no nothing. I’m feeling kinda used at this point.

        • Jade on February 8, 2018 at 8:58 pm

          Hello J. In my situation I’m not going anywhere because I know 100% that he cares about me. A man that promises you that he’ll give your child the best life he can possibly give should you not survive a 12 brain surgery is worth waiting on. There’s just a connection there I’ve never felt with anyone else. If I were you I would just continue to wait. You’ll know when you’ve reached your limit.

      • Naes on June 18, 2018 at 8:48 pm

        3 months!
        My cancer guy I like him very much and he is traditional too. We have met twice and he let me sleep over those 2 times but we didn’t have sex, we just kissed and a little of other things lol.
        He has opened up a lot about his family and what he wants in a relationship. He is much older than me but I feel old anyway haha
        Does it sound like he is interested? He is very quiet in regards to texting but he does initiate texts first sometimes.
        He let me sleep over the 2nd time because he didn’t want me to travel so far by myself at night. So that’s him caring, but its so hard to read him I still don’t know his feelings.
        He did tell me he just wanted to be friends, but he also told me how much he wants a relationship, so maybe I’m not the one? Please help lol

  5. Yoora on February 26, 2018 at 10:58 am

    Hii! Guys….my childhood friend is very caring and sweet towards me and even my parents and his parent are good friends. And we studied at same school. In grade 9th we had some rumours got spread that we are in a relationship but it was not true, he was just my best friend. But that rumour made our relation little awkward and we started avoiding each other…but then I started liking him and I also think he likes me and he started looking at me differently like “checking me out gaze”sometimes he shows caring and possessive about my friends(my friends are mostly boys) telling his friends about me and sometimes he doesn’t say any thing no reply of messages and calls. It has become very difficult for me to understand…what should I do? somewhere I feel that he likes me but he never said anything. Please help me to understand him and his feelings towards me.

  6. D on April 13, 2018 at 3:19 pm

    My cancer man broke it off with me cause I stress him out and argumentive? I never heard or dealth with this before? Please help heart broken.

  7. Cavita on September 22, 2018 at 10:49 am

    I meet this cancer guy online he live in a different country .we exchange numbers and start texting all day and night for 3 weeks .he would tell me in his Tex how much he love and care for me and that he have never been so opeaning to no other woman.everyday he would tell me how much he love and care for me .he told me about his whole life while growing up and about his mom . He told me how much money he was working for and where he works.
    After 3 weeks we decided to meet . He came to my country for 3 days we go out had lots of fun and had sex every day . He would tell me how crazy in love he is with me and that I am the only woman who can have his name and be his wife.
    He went back after the 3 days texted when he got home and .the very next day gone very silent no Tex and ignored all mine after 3 weeks I got a Tex from him saying how much I love u and I can live without you
    He Tex for 1 week and gone silent again
    It’s been 3 months now
    And no Tex he block me off his watsap
    Should I wait or move on
    I don’t know what to do .

  8. Aquarius Gonzales on November 23, 2018 at 3:51 pm

    So ive been seeing this cancer man that I work with. He’s younger than me and I have 3 kids and he has none. We eat lunch together, we talk all day long to each other, we take turns on buying food for each other. We text every morning good morning and good night to each other and the other night he walked me to my car. The only thing is we both come from a pretty rough past, he doesn’t want to get into a relationship that consist of him being needed. He seems to be really guarded when it comes to a relationship and for a cancer man to be strong about family he is worried about being turned into a father figure to my kids, which I do not want! He says he wants to show me how a real man should treat a lady and that he cares about me and wants me to be happy. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN??? Especially if you’re the one wanting to be the one to treat me that good. It’s just so confusing because he lets me in, he tells me EVERYTHING, its like he’s my best friend. And then he says he don’t French kiss because he don’t wanna build an attachment with anyone, but the other day after we got into a fight we talked and ate lunch at his house and then he apologized for talking to me the way that he did and that he didn’t mean to hurt me, then we ate and he got up and started massaging my shoulders and neck and he grabbed me and started to FRENCH KISS me! I was completely thrown off guard and didn’t know what to think about it because he aid he doesn’t do that stuff. ESPECIALLY when he knows how much I like him. Is he messing with me, or does he possibly have feelings for me to. We haven’t had sex together, but I have done oral on him quite a few times. What am I supposed to get out of this confusion???

  9. Haleigh Mintz on December 4, 2018 at 9:39 pm

    I started seeing this Cancer man, we were only together for a month but he broke it off and gave me his reasons, which all made sense because I knew they were all true to a point. He said he didn’t know what he wanted (he had just gotten out of a serious relationship), he had a lot on his plate (which he did, he was trying to get full custody of his little girl and debating a work relocation) and that our relationship was kinda rushed and moving too fast (again… However in regards to the moving too fast, that was all him, he bought me a relatively expensive bracelet that was actually my birthstone which he didn’t know at the time but got it cause he thought it’d “look nice with my ring” ((I always wear an opal ring and was surprised he paid that much attention to me as we hadn’t had a whole lot of interactions at that point in time)), wanted me to meet his family, told me all about his dark past, I met his daughter which he claimed was a big deal to him, I’d met all his friends and his friends even told me he was saying I was the one etc, he asked me if I’d want to move in with him… Then suddenly he went silent for a few days and when we finally talked that was his decision, to end things… He did it in person although I got the answer out of him before we could talk in person. He said he didn’t want to end it and he knew he’d regret it and claimed he was already regretting it but (insert previously mentioned reasons), I didn’t understand why he thought it was moving too fast when he was the one moving things along like that. We still keep in touch via social media, and see each other out briefly here and there… My question is… Is he just not interested in me anymore? Did the attraction really fade just like that? Is there still a chance for us and if so, should I keep my distance and just stay a friend at a distance like I am now or should I be trying, letting him know I want more? I don’t want to push him away, because he actually still has all this going on and more… But he treated me like a princess and even told me he thinks he loves me once before we split. I’ve never had anyone treat me so well and I don’t want to let go of it or lose it for good… I’m a libra btw, if that has any bearing. Hope this wasn’t too hard to follow, I know I kinda word vomited everywhere.

  10. Janice on December 12, 2018 at 3:34 am

    Met my cancer man on a dating app. He was extremely sweet and caring, we only texted as he had to fly off to Hong Kong for work for a week.
    Upon landing into HK he texted me and said the weather was great and we would bring my to chill together in HK one day.
    Our texting continued the 2 days, then he stopped saying good morning and on Sunday he fell sick and didn’t text good night or the like. I did text him telling him abt my day – self entertaining banter.
    The next morning he apologised and said he knocked out. (No good morning again, but I just let pass). I told him I was beginning to feel the drain from only just texting him, so he apologised and said he’s been really busy of late and would call me in the evening – which he didn’t. But I acknowledged it only at night with yes to the call, but he had fallen quite sick and knocked out again upon reaching the hotel.

    I’m unsure if his responses are due to a diminishing interest bec we’ve texted for over a week since connecting through the app, as he’s also stopped asking about my day in the afternoons. Or if he’s genuinely insanely busy – he’s a trader with a financial institution. Bec he did still text me when he was busy at the beginning of his trip.

  11. Abby on January 23, 2019 at 1:51 pm

    Hi, I’m 15 years old and I like this boy in my year who’s star sign is Cancer. We’ve been messaging over Snapchat for about a month and a bit, we get on so well over message and he leaves a few teasing comments here and there. But when we’re at school it’s almost like I get mixed signals. For example, he looks at me in history class sometimes, and lends me his pen in maths. We have a few inside jokes and make eachother laugh quite a bit. Some days though I almost get nothing. I messaged him asking if he was okay and he replied,”Once I get good advice I’ll tell you.” It could mean a thousand of things but I can’t help but wonder. Sometimes he messaged me out of the blue but it’s rare, and I feel like it’s me who’s starting the conversations. He’s told me about problems with his mum to what his dying meal would be. I was just wondering if I should keep trying to see if he likes me or just talk as friends? thank you 🙂

  12. Scorpio on February 28, 2019 at 10:56 am

    Am a scorpio woman and i’ve falling in love with a cancerian man.we’ve being talking for about 3month first then i went to flordia for a 6week vaction came back and about ofter a month ofter i came back we went out on a date and we end up at my home and we had sex,anyways after that it seems like we’ve gotten closer but after a while he seem to busy now a days he explain why he his and that i shoudnt think that way but his action says different the sex is mind blowing.i ask him a question the other day i ask him what did he really like about me? His reply was that he likes my personality and i dont keep alot of friend and am not knewn by many!! I dont knw what to think when we had sex he dosent like useing condom ask him why he said because he trust me dont get me wrong we do check up to make sure both of us is well.even he said all that i still cant tell if he mean it said he want to spend time with me he really dose but with work and class have him busy.i just dont knw i really need to hear your oppion on this what should i do should i just wait and see where this gose or call it a lost???

  13. Deb on June 19, 2019 at 1:12 pm

    I’m a Taurus he s a cancer. We were together now I believe he is with someone else but we still contact each other. There was a gap where I didn’t contact him for a few months. We reconnected. He says I’m in his head , he s been there when I need help . He says we ll be together again but has made no attempt to get together. He told me last yr he was seeing someone but seems to be alone when I randomly text him. What is going on .

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