You like to think of yourself as tremendously accepting of other people's foibles, but in reality your tolerance is more of a cop-out -- you just don't want to deal with the nasty business of confronting someone else and sharing your feelings. You'd rather indulge yourself; in food, wine, fun, and sometimes more illicit pleasures. Your lover is always trying to get you to open up.
You view it as invasive and annoying, and feel like you've had too many heart-to-hearts at 3:00 a.m. Your sweetie, on the other hand, finds you rather selfish and closed off. How to meet in the middle? You must find a way to communicate your feelings to each other. Your lover wants to talk talk talk you to death, but you're not a big fan. Try another way instead. Emails? Scheduled meetings? Love Rx through limericks? There absolutely, positively is a way that you and your sweetie can formulate the compromises you'll need to get you through the next thousand years or so -- it just requires you to get off your butt and start. If your sweetie really means as much to you as you claim, you'd be wise to get going.