You've got a pretty good thing going here, but it's not perfect by a long shot. For one thing, your lover tends to run all over you -- or at least try to -- and it leaves you feeling a bit bruised. Who wants to be scolded and ordered around like a kid?
You should be equals and partners, not parent and naughty child. But you're no champ at standing up for yourself, preferring to live your high life rather than work on anything serious and complex. Meanwhile, you get even in passive aggressive ways: sulks, leaving little messes around the house, initiating long, circular discussions about your relationship. You don't want to hear this, but on one level your partner views you as rather lazy and touchy. Now, all that being said, you still have a sweet hookup. You and your lover truly dig being together -- you have fun together. You want the same things out of life. You're harmonious more than dissonant. Try doing the things your sweetie likes more often, and the less popular stuff less often. There's no need for a major overhaul here, just some fine-tuning.