Does it give you pleasure to withhold security from your lover? Or are you just acting without thinking, definitely an M.O. for you?
Whatever's in your head, your actions have been just plain hurtful. Your lover doesn't mean to stifle or smother you by asking for more and begging for commitment. It's just that there's a lot of space between you. Too much space for comfort. You're a bit distant and a lot unreliable. You take off when things get too serious, act without thinking, consider your own needs above those of others. Your partner, on the other hand, is apt to over-think everything, invent problems where there are none, and say the wrong thing at the wrong time.What can two such thoughtless people do to heal the bruises they've inflicted upon each other? You can slow down, for starters. Temper your desires to flee when you get uncomfortable. Ask your partner to express emotions clearly. Ask questions and listen to the answers. You both must learn to share your inner selves rather than rushing along in a hurry to get somewhere. Do you even know where you're heading?