If your mom could give you advice, she'd warn you about your lover, because you influence each other in negative ways. You have a volatile and unstable relationship, laced with a lot of drama. It often seems as if you and your lover are at odds -- one of you wants to draw closer, the other is longing for space and freedom.
One of you may be more career-minded and ambitious; the other is more focused on home and romance. You also encourage the worst in each other, with qualities emerging that would be squelched in other, less unstable relationships. Together you are more apt to spend unwisely, indulge too often, act without thinking.The two of you simply must learn to take things more slowly. You can practice this important art in your private lives. Don't blurt out unkind things or act quickly; instead consider your words and actions first. More importantly, you can and should encourage each other to move with greater deliberation outside the relationship. Don't make sudden, rash decisions. Set goals and make plans. A little consideration can change this impulsive pairing into a healthy partnership that thrives and endures.