It's not that you don't admire your lover. On the contrary, you recognize the qualities that draw you hither: beauty, kindness, a sweet-natured desire to connect deeply with others. But along with those good points come some bad ones, and that's what has you all riled up.
You're annoyed, even contemptuous, over what you view as laziness. Your lover is a gentle dreamer, and you're a mover and a shaker. And that bugs you. Must you do everything yourself to get things done right? What's gonna light a fire under your sweetie's tail to get something moving?Sorry to let you in on this, but almost no one can measure up to your high standards. And although you don't realize it, your lover's relaxed nature is exactly what a striver like you really needs. You could be getting the nurturing and affection that provides the healing yin to your raging yang, if you could just relax enough to enjoy it. Cut your lover some slack. Even though their way of doing things may not be your way, that doesn't mean it's wrong. Focus on your lover's more admirable qualities rather than what's missing and you'll find you start appreciating what you've got.