You and your sweetie are an unusual match. There are ways that it's working for you, as well as ways you're bugged by the differences between you. Most of your problems are connected with the schism between your personalities.
You see your lover as rather egotistic and indulgent, while you're seen as stingy and pessimistic. You're both right, to an extent. But there's another side to your differences; mainly that they complement each other. Your lover's presence causes you to open up and laugh more, while you act as a stabilizing reality check on your sweetie's worst impulses. Even so, knowing that doesn't help you get along better in your day-to-day interactions.One of the biggest problems you face is your own insecurities. You view your lover as somehow more important or special than you. It makes you feel like you don't have the right to expect an equal voice in the relationship. But your mate desires a partner, not a child to nourish and scold. You are every bit as worthy as your sweetie -- start asking for what you want, and putting in as much time on your own goals as your partner's. A little energy put in these directions will yield great rewards.